Man in Box

Man in Box

Friday, May 04, 2007

Normal Traumatization of Boys

Terrance Real describes the indoctrination of boys into patriarchal thinking:
When I first began looking at gender issues, I believed that violence was a by-product of boyhood socialization. But after listening more closely to men and their families, I have come to believe that violence is boyhood socialization. The way we "turn boys into men" is through injury: We sever them from their mothers, research tells us, far too early. We pull them away from their own expressiveness, from their feelings, from sensitivity to others. The very phrase "Be a man" means suck it up and keep going. Disconnection is not fallout from traditional masculinity. Disconnection is masculinity.

quoted in "The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love" by bell hooks, page 60.